We make 85% of our decisions unconsciously. 70% of our conscious decisions are based on predominant social norms. This all means that the average inhabitant of the planet Earth has no idea what he really wants. Maybe he wants to “be somebody”. But being somebody is already taken because everybody is somebody. You can only be yourself. Many people spend years asking themselves the question: “who do I want to be?” never thinking to ask: “who am I really?”. To discover that, which I am, took me twelve years. I want my work to help you discover that which you are as well as who you can become, much faster than I did.
“I” exists in adequate contexts
If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
Every tool has a full existence only when it’s used in an appropriate context. A hammer makes sense when we’re hitting in nails. In the same way, every “I” makes sense in an adequate context. The context which you find yourself in determines your chance of success. Only after you become a fish in water can you grow and can others give you constructive feedback about your efforts. Separating different life contexts and managing them consciously is an important ability. We enter into a role (daughter, husband, worker, boss, etc.) because we need to, but the role isn’t the player. By being conscious of your roles and their adequate contexts you’ll get to know them and manage them.
“I” can grow in an appropriate environment
The environment you find yourself in will determine the possibility of your development. A small fish only needs a small aquarium, but a big fish needs an ocean. So surround yourself with people who are bigger than you, so that you can learn from them, and the space you’ll be functioning in won’t be hampering your growth.
Your parents planed and raised a child, but you as an adult are outside of their plans. You’re a surprise to them just like you’re a surprise to yourself. You don’t have to live someone else’s idea for your life, you can be the captain of your own destiny. You don’t have to live in a social category, you can discover your own individuality. But to do this, you have to build it.
“I” is what you make it
You don’t have to change who you are in order to achieve success. You just have to update your programming to something that can achieve your goals. Your motivation to create yourself—regardless of the self you already are—is the quality of the goal you set for yourself. If you set a goal that’s too small the means of getting it will also be small and so will your growth. If you want to have a normal life, that’s fine. But if you want to have an extraordinary life then set extraordinary goals for yourself.
The paradox of success is that the more you can handle the shadow of success the greater the success you’ll achieve. Because light always defines itself with the help of darkness and darkness with the help of light. Average people have average shadows and that’s often their conscious choice. The quality and size of the problem you face determines how much you can grow.
You can’t be a copy if want to build all of this because even the must accurate copy can’t be better than the original. Learn universal and repeatable strategies from people bigger than yourself and incorporate them into your own personality. The greatest success a teacher can achieve is to see a sutdent who overcame him. So create yourself and be better the people who inspire you.who inspire you.